Sunday 16 October 2016

EAT real food


I once had my mind blown at a conference on “birth, breastfeeding and beyond” when one of the speakers asked the audience this question:

What is more important, breastFEEDING or breastMILK?

Wait what?

What the speaker wanted to cover was the idea that the action involved with breastfeeding was just as beneficial - if not more so - as the nutrition supplied by breastmilk.

For an hour and a half we looked at all the ways in which breastfeeding helped with infant development that were not related to the contents of the milk. It was quite amazing and I walked away with more knowledge than I had anticipated; which then triggered some burning questions.

There is a plethora of information out there - websites, books, blogs (like this one), documentaries and podcasts - all focused on nutrition. They primarily describe the content of what you put in your mouth. There are many theories on what you should be eating. They can vary greatly from “legalise all food” advice, to strict diet strategies like GAPS, paleo and raw veganism… and oh so much in between. But what I see very little of, is the importance of actual chewing and eating.

Roast Pork sandwich!


Which brings me to the reason for this blog. Which is more important; WHAT we eat, or that we EAT?

We live a life of convenience. We want quick, we want easy and we want minimal energy involved. What better way to save time and energy, than by taking in food that almost bypasses your mouth? By that I mean, we hardly need to chew most of our modern foods. In the supermarkets you can find myriad prepackaged meals of a uniform, fairly soft consistency that require almost no chewing. It is mostly bite and swallow.

On the other hand, we have the current fads of green smoothies, juice fasts, shake diets and the many versions of liquid meals.

All of this means that most of us are too often missing the important step of physically eating. But there are a number of processes involved in the physicality of eating that impact not only your digestive health, but also your nervous system, brain, and even your emotional wellbeing.

What the act of eating (chewing) does for you:

1. Chewing stimulates the vagus nerve.
Among other things, the vagus nerve connects your brain to your digestive tract. When you chew, you basically prime the rest of your digestive system to do its job of breaking food down, and absorbing nutrients and water into the blood stream.

When you consume something that doesn’t require chewing, it doesn’t give your stomach time to produce enough hydrochloric acid to break down the proteins into amino acids. This then has a flow on effect all through the gastro-intestinal tract.

2. Produces saliva.
Saliva is so much more than the lubricant that helps your food go down. It contains enzymes that begin the digestive process from the moment the food touches your tongue. Skipping this step, even when that food is in liquid form, puts more pressure on the rest of your organs to break food down into usable nutrients.

Saliva also contains minerals that are required to keep your teeth strong and healthy.

The release of saliva is aided by a hormone called oxytocin. Oxytocin is one of your feel good hormones. It is associated with love, bonding and feelings of wellbeing. The act of eating and chewing can help to make you feel good.

3. Reduces stress.
Digestion requires loads of energy and when we are doing it properly, the body priorities it over other processes. When you take the time to chew your food, the body down-regulates stress hormones, so that some of the blood supply and energy going to your limbs is rerouted for your digestive system to use. Chewing your food can help lower feelings of stress and anxiety.

4. Increases memory and cognitive function.
Studies have shown that taking the time to chew increases stimulation to the parts of the brain that control memory, alertness and executive function. This occurs when pressure is applied to the periodontal ligament. In fact there is even a correlation between the number of teeth a person has and the onset of dementia.

5. It’s like weight-training for your teeth.
You often hear of the benefits of weight bearing exercise on bone health. Using your teeth for their intended purpose of chewing provides the same benefit. The load applied to the teeth helps to keep the join between teeth and jaw, healthy. Without chewing, bone density decreases and teeth can become loose.



I am quite the fan of good soup, a decent smoothie, or even the odd juice. However, I keep in mind that HOW I eat my macros and micros, is really important if I want to be truly healthy.

Sunday 2 October 2016

Hey Kid! Let's be friends

You all know how much I like to have a dig at popular memes on social media, well here is yet another. Every couple of months or so, this one comes across my Facebook feed:

 “Hey child of mine. I am NOT your friend. I am your parent. I am going to do this and that (stalk you, yell at you, make you do shit you don’t want to do, etc.) because I am your parent not your friend and I intend to beat you into shape like the malleable piece of metal I think you should be.”

I can see where the people who create and share these memes and videos are coming from, but I really feel like they are not only misguided but dangerous. So I am writing this open letter to my children to explain why I value their friendship.



Hey Kid of Mine (in your head just insert your own name because you know I am probably going to say the wrong one anyway),

How are you going? I hope all is well with you.

I just wanted you to know that I really want us to be friends. See, there are two things that I have learned; your friends are what make life worth living and friendship makes a solid foundation for EVERY relationship you ever have.

There is a crazy sentiment that has floated around for ages that you can’t be both parent and friend to your kids. It is based on this weird idea that a parent lays down the law and makes their kids adhere to it. No matter what.  On the other hand; as a friend, you do all in your power to make your kids like you. You give in to their every want and whim to keep the smiles on their cute little faces.  You bend over backwards. Sacrifice your time, energy, money and happiness in order to win them over. The result, being kids that grow up to expect the world to be handed to them on a platter with no empathy for anyone else. Spoilt brats. Unicorns.

It makes me wonder what sort of friendships these people have. See Kid, that is not what my friendships are about. I love my friends. They are beautiful people and I want them to have everything in life that they deserve, but never have I felt like it was my job to give them what they want. I have never felt that my role in our relationship was to make them happy.

That is not to say that I am an uncaring arsehole. If I can help someone out, I do. When things are tough, if I can lend an ear and empathise or point them in the direction of a solution, I do.

The friendships I have are based on understanding, mutual respect, celebration of our different talents and valuing each other for who we. It’s a flow of energy back and forth; and give and take, for want of a better phrase. Sometimes the flow goes my way, sometimes it goes the other. Sometimes we look at each other and exclaim, “Fuck, neither of us have much to give right now, but I see that stuff is hard for both of us and I love you.” Sometimes both of our cups are so filled with joy we feel invincible together.

My friends don’t need to do anything to win me over. They don’t need to buy me gifts or chocolates. They don’t need to drop everything to appease my whims. That is not what friendships are about. Actually, it is not what any of my relationships are about.

So Kid, why would my friendship with you be any different? I am not here to be your slave. I am not here to win you over with friendliness.  On the other hand I am also not going to try to berate, harass or shame you into being who I think you should be.

As with my other friends, there will be plenty of times I will say no. It might feel like rejection, but I promise you that will never be my intention. There will be times that I will ask of you, more than you can give; and when you say no, I will do what I can to accept that with grace. There will be times when you will need to be told that you are wrong. There will be times that I am wrong and I hope you feel at ease to tell me so.

But Kid, when a storm hits I will be your friend. I want to be a person you can always turn to. To help steer you through the hard times and I can’t be that unless we are friends. I want to be able to ask you for help when I feel like I am drowning. I want us to be invincible together like I know we can be. We won’t always agree; but I hope that the mutual respect we base our relationship on, means we can try to see each others perspective. So what do you think, can we be friends?

So much love,
Your Mum.

xxxooo